Sex After 50: Five Things to Know
We all want a happy and healthy sex life - especially those of us in the various stages of menopause or pre-menopause. But with issues like vaginal dryness, hot flashes, and sudden lack of interest, how do we keep — or get back to — the happy and healthy?
We love to share information and conversation, so we've gathered some insights about sex after 50 from a variety of sources that we hope you'll find helpful. Let us know what you think in the comments section below.
1. Keeping Sex Important Can Be a Great Habit
A recent study in JAMA Internal Medicine found that while “the mechanics of sex may become a bit more difficult after menopause, ... most women will continue to be sexually active as long as they feel sex is important.
The good news, according to the study's author is, "if you go into midlife still sexually active, chances are, you're going to continue to be sexually active."
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2. There are Some Pretty Good Upsides to Sex After 50
A recent article in health.com provides a thoroughly positive perspective on why sex after 50 is great. The article is a treasure trove of “glass half full” gems of the upsides of sex after 50, including:
- No pregnancy worries
- No interruptions from small children
- Greater sexual confidence
- Post-birth control resurgence of desire
- Increased pleasure through vaginal lubricants
- A wide variety of treatments for male sexual dysfunction
3. Sex Over 50 Has Power
Did you know that sex after 50 has power? According to helpguide.org, sex after 50 can:
- Improve mental and physical health. Sex can burn fat, cause the brain to release endorphins, and drastically reduce anxiety.
- Increase lifespan. Through its health-improving benefits, a good sex life can add years to your life.
- Solidify relationships. Sex is a chance to express the closeness of your deepest relationship.
- Give refuge. Sex gives you a chance to escape from the sometimes-harsh realities of the world.
4. The Focus Shifts From Performing to Relating
A recent article in HuffingtonPost.com gave a number of reasons why people over 50 have the best sex lives. One of the reasons that resonated with us was “no pressure.” A man who was interviewed for the article described the pressure on younger men to perform. But sex after 50, he explained, “is more about connecting. Even if it's casual sex, the focus has shifted from performing to relating.”
5. It's Finally OK to Ditch the Lace Underwear ... and Laugh in Bed
Humor writer Vikki Claflin wrote an article on the joys and freedom of sex after 50 for BetterAfter50.com. Because we also love to laugh, we've included some of her best — and funniest — reason's we've heard for why sex is better after 50:
- No one expects tiny lace bras and matching thongs under everything you wear. Who goes to work like that? We can always change into it when the time is right, but we don't need to be alert and always prepared like Girl Scouts...
- Nobody has to ask “Was it good for you?” By this age, we can pretty much figure that out without asking. And if you don't know what to look for, you weren't paying attention in your earlier years (which, ironically, pretty much answers the question).
- We've discovered that laughter during sex can be a good thing. Got a foot cramp? A touch of gastrointestinal distress? Fell off the bed trying something new? Admit it … sex can be funny. And … spontaneous, joyful laughter can be the most erotic sound in the world.
How do you keep your sex life happy and healthy after 50? Tell us in the comments section below. We look forward to continuing the conversation!
The Vibrant Voice Ambassador’s mission is to collect interesting stories and useful articles that are relevant for mature women. Our goal is to help you maintain an active lifestyle - to Fifty and Beyond!
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